God created us to need other people. From the very beginning, in the garden, God declared it was not good for man to be alone. We need each other. I picture my relationships through a series of bridges. There are some bridges I maintain and keep clear. Sadly, some bridges are in disrepair.
In this picture I can see three bridges, a very uneven wall, and a log. Look at the bridges in your family. Which bridge in the picture does your family bridge resemble? There may be many bridges represented in your family. What bridges do you maintain and build? Which bridges are in disrepair? Are the bridges open and strong with easy communication and clear traffic flow, or does each step on the bridge creak and groan, while you dodge missing boards, crumbling stones, or loose handrails? Is your bridge safe or treacherous? Upon what are the foundation of the bridges in your family built? As a parent, the big question is: Are you a bridge builder in your child’s life?
By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. – 1 Corinthians 3: 10
How do you become a bridge builder?
- Start with a foundation in Christ. Step onto the Bridge of Life! Ephesians 2:20 (NIrV) tells us that “Christ Jesus himself is the most important stone in the building.” If a house, bridge, or life is built without Christ as the foundation, it will crumble and fall, just like the story of the wise and foolish builders. Matthew 7: 24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”
- Be a wise builder. In 1 Corinthians 3: 10, after the foundation is laid, other people will build on the foundation too. Invest time in finding a church that will build with truths you find important in your family.
- Walk with Him daily. “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” – Colossians 2:6-7 Do not neglect the Bridge of Life! It needs daily maintance.
- Build instead of destroy. Proverbs gives instruction about being a builder. Proverbs 11:11 says “The blessing of honest people builds up a city. But the words of sinners destroy it.” Proverbs 14:1 tells us, “A wise woman builds her house. But a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands.” (NIrV) Words destroy deeper than the blows of an ax.
Follow along while I share my journey as a bridge builder with you. My prayer is that you start building bridges too!
*verses are NIV unless specified.*